Egg donation: would you do it?

By Victoria Fryer 

So we childfree folks all agree that we don’t want to have children, for whatever reason. But how would you feel about having your children out there in the world, somewhere?

Since the mid- to late-1980s, some women have turned to egg donors to assist them in generating a viable pregnancy. The regulations of actual egg donation differ from country to country. Some countries require the donors to remain anonymous, while some countries require the opposite. In the U.S. and the UK, some donors actually meet with the couples and remain acquainted.

And, at least in the U.S., egg donation can be quite lucrative for donors. One study showed that they averaged $4,000 for a donation.

There are, of course, pros and cons to egg donation. The pro is that it helps women who wish to become pregnant realize those dreams. And I always say that there should be more support for women who want to become pregnant and more acceptance for women who don’t. And the financial compensation doesn’t hurt either, though I would be sad to see that be anyone’s primary motivation for making such a big decision.

The cons revolve around having a biological child out in the world somewhere. This seems strange to some people, and I can see why. Also, there’s always the chance—if the donation is not fully anonymous—that the child could eventually seek you out in hopes of a relationship. I myself do not know my real father, so I can attest to the curiosity that remains throughout your life as to where your genetic material came from, exactly.

Another con, though, is the complex process that the donor must go through. Leading up to the procedure, donors endure daily injections. And the recovery from the procedure itself can be relatively long and painful. Some people also claim that the donation process had lasting impacts on their health.

In the past, I have given some thought to egg donation, but the fact is that I’m afraid of unnecessary medical procedures—so my fear has kept me from considering it more seriously. The fact is, though, that for some people, the rewards outweigh the risks.

Because I’ve also never known anyone who has donated their eggs, I’m curious about the perception others have of the process. What do you think of women who choose to do it? And, as someone who has chosen not to have children, would this be a viable option for you?

Victoria Fryer is a writer and content strategist. She lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and two pit bulls. You can find her on Twitter @extoria.

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