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Comedian Sarah Silverman has decided to choose the childfree life over becoming a mother: good for her!

By Nina Steele 

Sarah SilvermanYou can never please everyone and those who try always end up making themselves miserable. No matter how virtuous and decent a person you are, there will always be those who dislike you. Generally, the older you get, the more relaxed you become about other people’s opinions of you, because you realise that it’s not really you they dislike, but rather what you represent. We’ve all been guilty of this at some stage. It is a natural human instinct to want to be around or read about people who validate our own choices. People who are different make us question ourselves, and most people don’t like that. Which is why I salute the courage that Sarah Silverman showed when she posted this to her followers on twitter: “As a comic always working & on the road I have had to decide between motherhood & living my fullest life & I chose the latter”. Predictably, some mothers saw this as an attack on motherhood and made their feelings heard.

Here is a selection of some of their comments: “you ARE TOO selfish to be a Mom. Thank you for recognizing that”, “she said mothers are not living life to fullest, that is not only an insult but total crap”, “if living your life to fullest means the world revolves around you, it’s good you don’t have kids”, “it’s sad that you think telling jokes is a fuller life than having kids”, “this is literally old thinking. In 2017 women can have it all, conquer the world and have a few cute kids”, and finally: “that’s a good choice. A loving mom requires an unselfish disposition, wisdom & a good heart. Qualities U evidently lack”.

No wonder some childless by choice people are afraid to share their stories. One woman told me a few months ago that she would rather not tell people about the fact that she has chosen not to have children, because she is afraid she is going to get a lot of abuse. Funny how some mothers feel the need to lash out at one woman’s decision not to have children, when us non-parents have to constantly read about motherhood. Not a day goes by without stories about pregnant celebrities on online tabloid platforms. Thankfully, Sarah Silverman is made of strong stuff, and no amount of abuse is going to change that.

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