Readers’ Stories

Are you childless by choice or circumstance? Share your story

Amy’s Story: How I ended up childfree

I’m 45, so I guess that’s the age that we realize it’s almost too late to have children. The regret of not having children should start to creep into my mind.… Read the rest

Keturah’s Story: The simplicity of knowing you do not want children

Looking to pitch a story about childfree black women to a mainstream publication, a journalist friend asked me: “When did you know that motherhood was just not for you?” Any woman who is childfree by choice is familiar with this question.… Read the rest

Cleo’s Story: People don’t believe you when you say you are a happily childfree woman and here’s why

How do you feel when someone begins a sentence with “I’m not X, but…” or “I don’t hate X but…”? It doesn’t matter what words follow the buts because the “I’m not X, but…” evokes immediate suspicion.… Read the rest

Pooja’s Story: How we went from wanting children to living happily as a childless couple

I feel ready to share my story, after being married for 10 years. I hope it can be of use to anyone reading it and that some people will learn from my mistakes.… Read the rest

Sean’s Story: Being childfree in Zimbabwe

Childfree???, I didn’t know that word existed. You grow up being actively encouraged to follow the so called life script: go to university, get a Job, get engaged/pay bridal price, get married, get a mortgage, raise kids and just die.… Read the rest

Writer Rhonny Dam’s Story: I’m fairly happy in life and have zero regrets about never having a child

There was never a time when I wanted to have a baby. When I was of that doll-getting age, the ones that you could feed and that you had to change were all the rage.… Read the rest

Leah’s Story: I have walked away from relationships because of the children issue and won’t hesitate to do it again

Whenever I hear people complain about how difficult it is to be a parent, my first thought is to remind them that it was a choice they made.… Read the rest

Mark’s Story: I have devoted my life to searching for the meaning of life and so having children has never been my concern

My partner and I live a contented life as a childless couple and that is a choice we made a long time ago. I personally have always felt a deep sense that there is more to this life than meets the eye and it was a relief to know that my partner felt the same way too.… Read the rest

Nadine’s Story: I don’t want to live with the guilt of having children I cannot afford

My partner and I sat down, had a frank discussion about our finances and came to the conclusion that unless one of us wins the lottery, there is no realistic chance of us starting a family.… Read the rest

Jessica’s Story: I am childless by choice unlike my mother who felt she had no choice but to become a mother

I am an only child and my mother never hid the fact that had it been for her, I would never have been born. It’s not that she doesn’t love me, she does.… Read the rest