Readers’ Stories

Are you childless by choice or circumstance? Share your story

Jason’s Story: Why have a child and then have someone else raise it for us?

My partner and I are busy professionals. We are both in our 40s. Even though we have been together for a good few years, children just aren’t an option right now and I doubt they will ever be.… Read the rest

Lynette’s Story: The last thing I wanted was to end up a single mother just like my mother

The decision to be childfree isn’t one that I took lightly, particularly as I am from a background where children are celebrated and everyone is expected to have them.… Read the rest

Debbie’s Story: I made it clear to my husband that I wasn’t going to change my mind about not having children

I have been enjoying reading all the stories on and have decided it was time to share my own. I am happily married to my childhood sweetheart.… Read the rest

Meilin’s Story: Our decision not to have children is mainly financial

I am a 38 year old UK citizen of Chinese descent. My husband and I are childless by choice. We met 7 years ago, and have been married for 4.… Read the rest

Gena’s Story: My husband’s unwavering support has meant that childlessness has not been an issue in our marriage

After my initial shock at finding out that because of a genetic disorder, my chances of becoming a mother were pretty much zero, my first thought was: ‘who would want to be with me?’ That was over 15 years ago.… Read the rest

Yolande’s Story: Looking after other people’s children has meant that I haven’t missed not having my own

My husband and I met in 1991 and were married within a year. I am 52, he 70. We didn’t choose not to have children, it just didn’t happen.… Read the rest

Andrew’s Story: I just don’t understand this obsession many people have with children

I have never quite understood all the fuss about having children, considering that most of the people I know with children are often quite unhappy.… Read the rest

Shawna’s Story: The older I got the clearer it became that children just did not appeal to me

My husband and I have been together for 15 years. We are both 40. The first thing we discussed when we met was children and it was an immense relief to both of us to discover that neither of us wanted any.… Read the rest

Martha’s Story: I am gradually coming to terms with the reality that motherhood may never happen for me

I have had a pretty eventful love life. Not that I wanted it to be that way of course. I imagined that by this time in my life, I would be settled with a couple of kids.… Read the rest

George’s Story: My partner and I agree that we are not missing out on much by not having children

I was married twice and although it’s not a choice I made, both marriages did not produce children. Would I have liked to have had children?… Read the rest