Support Issues

We did consider adoption, although we decided against it at the end as we found the whole process highly intrusive. The other thing that put us off against adopting was the fact that the child still has to keep in contact with his/her biological parents regardless of whether the reason he/she was put up for adoption in the first place was because he/she was abused. I am not so fond of fostering because the child ultimately moves on and surrogacy was never an option since the reason we are unable to have children is because of my husband's infertility.

Fertility treatment is out for me, because I have none at all rather than it just being low. I don't think I'd like the idea of fostering, because I would bond with the child and then they would leave.

Adoption and surrogacy, however, are different issues entirely - and I think that I would be interested in both. My partner and I are thinking about exploring our options within the next couple of years, so that should be interesting. I just hope we're on the same page with this.

I don't think I could foster for the same reasons above, I'd get too attached to them that I wouldn't be able to let go, it would be heart breaking.

I don't know much about the adoption process but it does sound heavy going. From reading Nina's comment about the contact that is quite off putting. Would they ever really be yours?

I've thought about adoption, couldnt do fostering. Not sure what the rules are here but didnt think they had to keep in touch with the birth parent? I thought that medical history may be needed and possibly they could want to find birth familywhen older (which I dont know how I could deal with that situation)
Surrogacy is an option but again I'd be worried that the birth mum would want to keep the baby!

I have said in the past that I am childless because of the issues I have surrounding the process - so adopting isn't something that I would rule out. However, eeyorebob makes a good point, in that I would worry that they would want to get in touch with their birth families when they were older - at which point I wouldn't be able to stop them. And they may well have sorted their own lives out by that point and be happy to be back in touch. Where would that leave me?

I think that everyone who is even thinking about fertility treatment should read some of the articles on here, so that then they at least know what they should be expecting from it. It's all very well to say "oh, I'd do this" or "I'd do that", but when faced with the cold, hard facts - you might not want to, as it's not as simple as many would like you to think.