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George’s Story: My partner and I agree that we are not missing out on much by not having children

Childless man at homeI was married twice and although it’s not a choice I made, both marriages did not produce children. Would I have liked to have had children? The answer is yes. But of course it hasn’t happened and there is no use me making myself miserable for the rest of my life because of it. Having said that, I have to admit that because of the sheer amount of indoctrination, it took me until my late 50s to become truly comfortable with not having children. By then, I was living comfortably, with a job I enjoyed doing and realised that I wasn’t dealt a bad hand after all.

A few years ago, I met the woman who I now share my life with. I am now in my 60s and she in her 50s and understandably, having children is not on the cards for us. We broached the subject a few times and are both of the agreement that we are not missing out on much, considering the state of the world today. Every time I hear stories of online bullying and all the obsession with looking a certain way, particularly for young girls, I breathe a sigh of relief that at least I don’t have to deal with it and my partner feels the same. From what I can see, being a parent today is far more of a challenge and far more stressful than it ever was for people of my parents’ generation.

My partner and I spend our spare time on our share hobbies, with cycling being the main one. We also do a fair bit of volunteering. What I have come to realise the older I get is that if you let society dictate your life for you, you will pay a heavy price for it. Instead, I have learnt to follow my instinct as opposed to listening to all the noises coming from others. Just because someone I know lives a certain way does not meant that I should blindly follow in their footsteps. That’s what I meant early on by indoctrination. We are all led to believe that life should be lived a certain way, as opposed to being told to be our true selves.

My mother, God bless her, is deeply sad that I have no children of my own. She is worried that I won’t have anyone to look after me when I become too old. I keep telling her that times have changed and that having children these days does not necessarily mean that they will be there for you in old age. My partner and I are proactive about what we want to happen to us when we are too old to deal with our own affairs. Like some people have said before, if anything, not having children forces you to plan for old age, and surely that can’t be a bad thing.

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  1. Hi George, thanks for sharing your story and for inspiring others. I have to agree with you that being a parent today is far too much of a challenge. Our celebrity obsessed culture is having a negative impact on children. Some of the stories we read about are often quite depressing. There is a feeling that children today are out of control, and that parents are failing in their duties. Of course that is a generalisation, but that is nonetheless the general impression of today’s society.

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