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Writer Lauryn Valencia’s story: Why I had a hysterectomy at 29 without children

On February 3, 2014, I, a single woman at 29, without children, was diagnosed with fibroids. The doctor told me there were options for treatment. But treatment for my fibroids was not what I wanted. What I wanted was a hysterectomy. I knew having a hysterectomy meant that I could never have kids. And I was okay with that. Because when I was 19, I had already made the decision that I did not want kids. Having a hysterectomy would not only get rid of my fibroids but it would also get rid of my worries of getting pregnant and I would no longer have those “monthly visitors”.

I’ve had close friends and family members who didn’t really like the idea of me having a hysterectomy, they even tried to talk me out of it, but I really didn’t care how they felt about my decision. All I cared about was the life changing decision that would make ME happy, nobody else.

I’ve learned from experience that doing something you don’t want to do to make someone else happy, is one of the best ways to be miserable. As the old saying goes, “Please yourself before you please others.” When the doctor called me and gave me the date for my surgery, I began making the preparations and got everything I needed for recovery prior to my surgery date.

On Monday, April 21, 2014, at 1:00 p.m., I had my hysterectomy. When I came out of my surgery, I was nauseous, I could barely talk, and I had lost my appetite. My mom, who was against the idea of me having a hysterectomy at first, eventually came around and supported me in my decision on having the surgery. Her and my grandmother both stayed at the hospital overnight with me and took care of me while I recovered. As the weeks of recovery went by, the pain was fading away, my scar was healing nicely, I was gradually gaining my strength and appetite back, and I’ve lost 15 pounds.

Now that I am fully recovered, I am back to my normal activities, I’m eating healthier and buying my clothes one size smaller. I am happy with the life changing decision I have made. I have no regrets.

Lauryn Valencia’s Book: 365 ways to live happily single and childfree, is on sale on Amazon. You can also find her on twitter @lauryn_valencia

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Comments

  1. Hi Lauryn,
    Thanks for sharing your story and for joining the team of writers on this site. I look forward to reading more of your contributions.

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