Tim’s Story: I haven’t found a woman I like enough to want to marry let alone have children with

Childless middle aged manI have had many relationships. None of them lasted long enough to develop the kind of closeness that leads to marriage and eventually children. I don’t consider myself a commitment phobe. I just haven’t found a woman I like enough to want to marry let alone have children with. My longest relationship lasted just over a year. I was committed enough to let my then partner move in with me. Sadly that’s when things turned sour. As it turned out, we got on better when we lived separately.

I have given up on the idea of having children. I know that as a man, I can have them at any time in my life, but the idea of having a child so late in my life is out of the question. I am at a stage now where I am becoming more and more aware of my own mortality, and my main concern is to make the most of life and to leave something meaningful behind. I know some people think that having children is the best legacy anyone can leave, but that’s not a view that I share. What the world needs right now is not more children but rather enough help to deal with all the ones that are already here.

The one thing I haven’t given up on, is love. I am hopeful that my soul mate is somewhere out there. Technically speaking, finding love should be easy, thanks to dating sites. However, as I have sadly found out for myself, they are far from easy and can leave you feeling completely disappointed and wishing you weren’t on there at all. I have had a few instances where the person I thought I was going to meet turned out to be completely different from their online picture. I know it’s part and parcel of online dating but it is such a waste of people’s time.

I am going back to basics and trying to meet people in real life. I won’t rush to take down my profile on the dating site I am on. You never know, as they say, it is when you are expecting it the least that life gives you what you are looking for. I don’t have a particular type when it comes to women. All I want is a kind hearted person who is not too self-absorbed and cares as much for others as she does for herself. That’s not too much to ask, is it?

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  1. Hi Tim, thanks for sharing your story, which I found rather entertaining I must admit. You surely tell it like it is. I have heard some pretty alarming stories regarding dating sites, although the same can be said about meeting people in real life too. What about joining one or two social clubs? There are many around these days. Being around people with the same interests as you may make things easier. I wish you the very best.

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