Does not having children mean a less chaotic holiday season?

By Dann Alexander 

‘Tis the season! The season for parents as they scramble to get gifts arranged for their children. The season to get gifts arranged for the children of their siblings. Or maybe get gifts for their grandchildren, friends, dogs, cats, and any others who might be on the list for gift-giving. People have so much to do and so little time to do it. With kids in the picture there might be even less time to accomplish everything on the list. Might not even be time to make a list of things that need accomplishing!

I’m not writing minus a sense of reality here. Of course those who do not have children celebrating this time of year are also people scrambling to get gifts, family dinner ingredients, while coming up with ways to get through the season. Not having children to me results in a much less chaotic holiday season. This is another one of the many reasons why I’ve made this important lifestyle choice.

This is something I am very grateful for. Take a look at what has happened with shopping come the Christmas holiday season. Stores get crazy busy and are often crowded with families all in tow being part of the process. I cannot count how many times I have seen families both with many children and few, as they fumble through the stores and the malls during this time of year.

The parents are trying to get everything done at once so they don’t have to get caught up in any further chaos. The kids are pulling stuff off the shelves asking if Santa Claus could make that in his workshop. Come to think of it, these scenes remind me also of how grateful I am for online shopping!

Believe me when I tell you, this is a great reminder on how grateful I am to live a childfree life. This time of year represents a time of reflection more than anything. Whether you have kids or live childfree, I sincerely wish all the readers the very best for the holiday season and the coming New Year. Let me add a very humble thank you for reading and sharing the articles on this website.

What does this season mean to you as someone who does not have any children? How does the pressure you feel compare with that of people around you with children?

Based just outside of Halifax, Nova Scotia Canada, Dann Alexander is the Author of Planned UnParenthood – Creating a Life Without Procreating which is available at Amazon and other online retailers. Twitter @WriterDann

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  1. Hi Dann, thanks for a great article. Based on my own experience, the answer is yes. For one thing, we don’t have to buy as many presents and as I wrote in my own article about Christmas, we can do away with Christmas decorations too, if we feel like it. Yes the pressure is definitely less for us as a couple, compared to people around us that are parents.

    I once talked to a woman who spends over a thousand pounds on her teenage daughter at Christmas. Her reasoning was that she didn’t want her to be the odd one out, when all her friends had the latest gadgets and smartphones. This is sadly the reality of raising a child today and parents have to either make a stand against the whole consumerism culture, or just go along with it. Ultimately, it boils down to values and what matters most to each one of us.

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